My Job is social media based and I don’t want to seem to ‘bite that hand that feeds me’ but this post represents my concern of what I see as an increasing gravity towards the concept of perfection on social media. Sometimes we need to think twice about it’s possible impact on how it makes us feel. I come across too many people who seem to be comparing their own lives to what they see on a screen and the perceptions that follow from it. When I was 16,17,18, social media wasn’t like it is today (gosh, do I make myself sound old?) but I am glad it wasn’t and I definitely don’t envy young girls growing up today having to find and be comfortable with an image of themselves, as they find themselves surrounded by so much apparent ‘perfection’.It is an aspect of modern life I feel passionate about and one that I wish there was more recognition of.
Getting to the point – It is so easy when looking at all the thousands of ‘pretty’ Instagram or other social media feeds to make assumptions and comparisons with your own life and that tiny fraction of someone else’s. Don’t ask me who wrote it but I read this once: ‘Don’t compare your everyday life to someone else’s high lights’. Thats exactly it – the fancy images just tell a story, they are not real life. Blogs, Instagrams, youtube accounts etc are created by people wanting to be creative, communicate and express their passions and seen in that light they can be really interesting and informative not to say inspiring. However it is no more than that – the images you see are hardly likely to represent anything more than an ideal. They almost certainly do not represent the actual life of the writer in all it’s many different aspects and as such have no use as a mirror or as a possible comparison to yours. I guess it’s even the same with our friends – all the ones who are uploading pictures of getting the latest handbag or flying off on holiday every second week ,may for all you know, have just found out their boyfriend is cheating on them. No one ever knows whats really going on in someone else’s life and just like that iceberg, based on their social media, you will only be looking at the tip of it.
Now all this, I have to say, applies as much to me as any one else. My job as a blogger involves creating image. That image though comes with a lot of time and planning. Posts and images are planned out days if not weeks in advance. I see my photographer for two days in every month and each time we shoot 4 looks so that I can put up two fashion posts a week. Often just my hair and make up can take hours to get right to say nothing of all the time it takes to style the clothes. I hope it is all worthwhile and leads to an attractive image but I suppose what I am trying to say it doesn’t actually represent the everyday of my life. Check me out at breakfast on a Monday morning……..actually maybe not! For all of us it would be crazy to compare our lives to something that has been specifically planned out and created to look a certain way . That stunning picture of a beautiful girl walking into the sea in a plain black bikini with her hair in a bun was almost certainly taken with an amazing camera and took several hours to achieve.Enjoy it for what it is but real life it isn’t !
Please don’t get me wrong I am the world’s biggest fan of social Media, it’s just that I imagine it’s very hard for all of us not to in some ways through it, fall into the trap of comparing our lives to the lives of others. However, maybe if nothing else, we can when we do it, realise it, laugh at ourselves being a little silly and move on.