I’ve been enjoying writing non-fashion blog posts recently and when it came time to write this one something moved me to go in the direction of meaningful and useful. Self-belief has long been a subject of interest to me as I am not someone who views themselves as particularly confident. However, when I look back to how much self-belief I used to have to where I am now, I can see I have had the good fortune, to have learnt a little on my way. So with the disclaimer of (in the bigger picture) little old me being a relative beginner here are a few ideas that have worked for me(learnt normally the hard way) and which I would like to share.
1. Act positively
It’s very easy to say ‘think’ positively- It’s a very different thing to actually act positively. In modern life, we are often told to think positively as though that automatically leads to positive action. Change can happen but only when thoughts are translated into action. Often this will take considerable discipline and determination but it’s only when you walk the walk instead of talking the talk that negative feelings are replaced by positive feelings.Feelings that you have generated, feelings of self-confidence. You are what you do, so if you change what you do, you change what you are- you with me?! Change has to be more than just in your thinking, translate that thinking into something physical and you are on your way to actual positivity. For example, It’s easy to ‘think’ of making that phone call, it’s when you actually do it that you get to feel good about yourself.
2. Make an effort in your appearance.
Okay, so this one could seem pretty lame but for me making an extra effort in how I present myself, hair, makeup, clothes, will almost be the biggest game changer of my day in terms of how I feel about myself. We all deserve to feel good about ourselves, taking the time to show the world your best side is a sign of self-respect and self-love, so give yourself the time to make it happen.
3. Get to know yourself.
Get to know yourself and understand where any negative thoughts that you have might be coming from. I mean if they seem to be popping up on Sundays after only having 2 hours sleep after a heavy Saturday night then maybe it’s not you that is the problem but more likely your situation. However, if you start to feel bad after spending hours on end stalking other people’s social media then it is most likely you, how about you stop the stalking? If you can pinpoint where the negative thoughts and beliefs are coming from, then they are that much easier to monitor and understand.
4. Get prepared.
It’s hard to have confidence in yourself if you are under prepared. Preparation can be the essential ingredient in making so much of what we do so much more comfortable. As the saying goes “Fail to prepare – prepare to fail”. Good preparation can be fun to put in place and help to give a sense of certainty and confidence. Having said that, also be prepared for things to go wrong, nothing ever goes completely your way, being prepared for that makes it easier when it doesn’t.
5. Stand tall.
This is often something I need to actively remind myself to do but it really does work. I definitely don’t have the best posture in the world but when I remind myself to stand tall I immediately start to feel better about myself.
6. Set small goals and achieve them.
It’s very easy in life to have massive goals you want to reach and then when you don’t reach them by a certain time you can get disheartened. It’s important to also set small goals and then when you reach those you can feel good and happy about yourself. By fulfilling lots of smaller goals they will gradually in their own sweet way lead to the bigger goals being reached too!
7. Change a habit.
This does not have to be something drastic like giving up smoking. Even something small like waking up at 7.30am instead of 8.00am can lead to new opportunities and a sense of empowerment. If you commit to changing something, however small, and commit to it for as little as a month you give yourself the opportunity to recognise how powerful you are in being able to change the direction of your life.
Smiling really does make you feel SO much better about yourself and life in general. Furthermore, other people really like it! Remind yourself to smile more each day. 😊
This is a point I have enthusiastically spoken about in other blog posts of mine but gratitude is a magic word that can bring so much happiness and confidence. In a nutshell – all you have to do is just remind yourself of all the wonderful things you already have in your life. Go on – Make a mental or physical list of the amazing qualities you have as a person and the amazing circumstances that you live in. Forget what’s on the ‘other side of the hill’, probably without realising it we all – have it all.
I hope you found some of these points useful, let me know if you can share any other pointers for self-belief and confidence building.